I do NOT applaud divorce and remarriage

I wish people would read my posts properly before commenting on them.

Mark Olson linked to one of my posts on his Stones Cry Out blog, post dated Tuesday, April 29th, 2008 at 8:30 am:

Homosexual practice and divorce compared. One problem, not confronted in that essay is that the contention “Divorce and remarriage has become generally acceptable even in socially conservative circles in western countries” is itself not by any means good or to be applauded but instead vehemently countered (if true).

In response I commented, at 9:37 am in the same time zone:

But I did confront that problem. I thought I had made it very clear that I did not consider this contention “by any means good or to be applauded”. Surely my intention was clear enough from my words “to meet their congregations’ expectations”. But, if not, I explicitly proposed “a less permissive attitude to remarriage”, and commended the Church of England position that “remarriage requires a bishop’s special permission”.

Mark has so far made no response to my comment. But I discovered another post linking to my post, also dated Tuesday, April 29th, 2008 at 8:30 am, with the following:

Homosexual practice and divorce compared. One problem, not confronted in that essay, is that the contention “Divorce and remarriage has become generally acceptable even in socially conservative circles in western countries” is itself not by any means good or to be applauded but instead should be vehemently countered (if true).

Well, he has corrected his grammar by adding “should be”, but still has not read my post properly.

Let me reiterate my point. I do NOT applaud divorce and remarriage. I do not consider it good. And I made that point very clear in the original post. I was simply reporting, in by no means positive terms, a regrettable social trend. I should clarify that I was comparing the present position with that of perhaps 50 years ago; the most recent changes may not be in the same direction.

As for how this trend should be countered: I’m not sure that vehemence is the right approach, but I think that churches should make it very clear that this, like homosexual activity, is not generally acceptable behaviour.

0 thoughts on “I do NOT applaud divorce and remarriage

  1. I wish people would read my posts properly before commenting on them. . . . churches should make it very clear that [divorce and remarriage], like homosexual activity, is not generally acceptable behaviour.

    Ah, so reading your post carefully (as you insist we must), you are advising that homosexual activity is acceptable behavior as a special case, but not as a general behavior.

  2. More or less, Iyov. I would never say that it is completely acceptable. But if a couple cannot control themselves, it is better that they formalise their relationship and then do what they are going to do in the context of public mutual commitment. I am working on a post on the relevance to this issue of 1 Corinthians 7:9.

  3. Gotcha. Of course, I was just yanking your chain, but you raise a valid point. It is perhaps analogous to the old rabbinic conundrum, if one is determined to have a pepperoni pizza, then should one make a blessing over the food first? And what is the blessing for treif food, anyway?

    PS: I will assume you did not mean it personally when you gave me the anti-spam word “madmen”.

  4. Well, Iyov, I don’t know what you think of Jesus’ exegesis of Deuteronomy 24 in Mark 10:1-12, but it certainly suggests a divinely sanctioned way of regulating sin.

    “Madmen” is of course a city in Moab, not a description of any of my readers!

  5. Peter,
    Sorry, I’ve been busy. I finally replied at my own blog, here is the body of that comment:

    I noted the comment and left your defense largely untouched for a time because you were right. My error in misreading your post was in a large part because I hadn’t carefully read your post before creating my link/plug.

    I’d entreat you to realize that the main purpose of those things I link, I do because I think they are essays/statement that are “highlights” of what I came upon in the previous day’s (or weekend). I linked you because what I saw (reading alas not as carefully as I might have) looked very interesting.

    As to the notion that homosexual marriages should be blessed as a lesser of evils, I’m not convinced as of yet and have not really any firm position on the matter as of yet. In general I think homosexuality in the Church is a personal/pastoral issue and, well, I’m not ordained or seeking ordination so it’s one I don’t have to broach directly.

    The problem I’d have with “encouragement” of homosexual marriage/blessing of unions is, as recently noted, those unions also often set aside or redefine “monogamy”, which is a conversation we don’t need.

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